Margueritte L. Woods, I think I am going to delete my Facebook account. I've been considering
this for a while now, and the recent actions that Facebook has taken
against drag queens and the transgender community* users with regards to using their real
names has really offended me. I'm not sure I feel comfortable with
remaining silent and allowing Facebook to continue to profit off of me
in light of this, so it is very likely that I will be deleting all of my
pages and this primary Facebook account.
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Having a man access his feminine side, acknowledge that he has one and start to feel feminine is a very special accomplishment. In this article I’m going to explore different methods of feminizing your partner. Some may be more psychological while others seem more physical in their approach.
Every person is different and everyone has a different idea of what femininity means so you need to adopt the methods to the needs of your partner and see what works best. Also you need to be clear on what exactly you want to achieve. How far do you want to take this and what kind of femininity do you want to see in a man?
Emotional Feminization - treat him like a woman
What this means exactly is different for everyone but generally there
is an old fashioned (and in my opinion dated) set of rules for how a
woman should be treated by a man. Well just turn it around and be the
man in the house. Hold doors for him, buy him flowers
and gifts once in a while. Also treat him as an object of desire and
look at him as if you’re undressing him with your eyes. This will make
him feel self conscious and physically desired. Both will put him
sexually on a defensive or passive position which many people feel is a feminine trait. Also it will subconsciously encourage him to dress more feminine.
Take control of situations without his influence. Organize things without waiting for his approval and simply let him know what’s happening. I know that’s not necessarily making him feminine but it will gradually make him feel more dependent which helps in the overall process of being feminized. It doesn’t necessarily require that you are the primary earner in the relationship. I’ve known couples where the man earned the bread but the woman dealt with all the finances and had full control over his assets.
Surprise him. I’ve already mentioned gifts but there’s more. Go out with him and “take him" to a special place unexpectedly. Those kind of dates are much more fun anyway and it’ll make him try to read your mind and interpret your intentions because he won’t feel in control or prepared for what you might do next. All these things are best done gradually over a longer period to feminize him. And keep watching how he takes it and let him talk openly about how he feels. In fact, you must get him to talk openly about his feelings. Then you can adjust the feminizing procedure accordingly. Why not take him to a beauty spa?
Hide your own vulnerability (to a point). The more you show your vulnerable side, the more he’ll be encouraged to protect and nurture you, thus making you the feminine and passive partner. Turn that around and reduce how much you show your sensitive and vulnerable side. (I don’t believe in hiding it completely though). This will give him more confidence in you and you’re strength to cope with life which, in turn, will allow him to rely on you for emotional support.
Take control of situations without his influence. Organize things without waiting for his approval and simply let him know what’s happening. I know that’s not necessarily making him feminine but it will gradually make him feel more dependent which helps in the overall process of being feminized. It doesn’t necessarily require that you are the primary earner in the relationship. I’ve known couples where the man earned the bread but the woman dealt with all the finances and had full control over his assets.
Surprise him. I’ve already mentioned gifts but there’s more. Go out with him and “take him" to a special place unexpectedly. Those kind of dates are much more fun anyway and it’ll make him try to read your mind and interpret your intentions because he won’t feel in control or prepared for what you might do next. All these things are best done gradually over a longer period to feminize him. And keep watching how he takes it and let him talk openly about how he feels. In fact, you must get him to talk openly about his feelings. Then you can adjust the feminizing procedure accordingly. Why not take him to a beauty spa?
Hide your own vulnerability (to a point). The more you show your vulnerable side, the more he’ll be encouraged to protect and nurture you, thus making you the feminine and passive partner. Turn that around and reduce how much you show your sensitive and vulnerable side. (I don’t believe in hiding it completely though). This will give him more confidence in you and you’re strength to cope with life which, in turn, will allow him to rely on you for emotional support.
Love Him Like a Woman
This is mostly a physical way.
It’s very hard to describe in words but I’ll give it a try. Touch him
in a way that you’d touch a woman. Hold him in your arms often and have
him lean on you. If he’s 3 feet taller than you then you can have him
rest on your lap. When in bed try to put your arms around him as though
he belongs to you and you want to hold and protect him. Many men have a
hard time enjoying this because it’s hard for them to let go and give
up control. My advice is to get him when he’s very relaxed. Ultimately
everyone enjoys feeling this kind of warm protection from their partner
but they have to learn to open up for it. Whether male or female,
partners should do this a lot. For most women this is better than sex so just show him why. Let him experience it and he'll see why it's so special. Again this is great independently of feminization but it helps with the process.
Make him your female dance partner
In most forms of dance, steps and movements have a super strict gender code so this is
a good place to swap roles. Take some dance classes if you aren’t yet
into it. This can be loads of fun. Perhaps try ballroom dancing because
you get beautiful dresses which can add to the whole experience. Lead
him, twirl him like a woman and see how he plays a long.
Dress him like a Woman
Don’t underestimate the power of clothes. A man who wears feminine
clothes will instantly feel more feminine. Some transvestites say that
they feel so feminine while dressed up that they start wishing to be
swept off their feet and be taken like a woman – even by a man despite
being straight. If anyone could explain that to me if they’ve had such
experience I’d be very interested to know more.
Then there's also forced feminization which is generally making him wear women's clothes and act like a girl. FF is a very erotic fantasy that's popular among men who like being feminized anyway. Follow the link for an article on that.
What kinds of outfits are best for this purpose, is up to you and your partner. You may want to start gradually by just having him wear panties or tights. Or you could subtly put some make-up on him. Another way is to have him wear tighter fitting trousers that reveal his body shape more but people might think he’s gay. I’ve written a lot about feminizing men with clothes so I’ll refer you to my other articles on that subject (see the links below). Super feminine outfits are the ballroom gown, the mermaid dress and the chiffon petticoat with lots of layers. If you can get him to feel comfortable in any of those, then you can confidently look him into the eyes and say:Honey…… you’ve been feminized!
Lucy
Then there's also forced feminization which is generally making him wear women's clothes and act like a girl. FF is a very erotic fantasy that's popular among men who like being feminized anyway. Follow the link for an article on that.
What kinds of outfits are best for this purpose, is up to you and your partner. You may want to start gradually by just having him wear panties or tights. Or you could subtly put some make-up on him. Another way is to have him wear tighter fitting trousers that reveal his body shape more but people might think he’s gay. I’ve written a lot about feminizing men with clothes so I’ll refer you to my other articles on that subject (see the links below). Super feminine outfits are the ballroom gown, the mermaid dress and the chiffon petticoat with lots of layers. If you can get him to feel comfortable in any of those, then you can confidently look him into the eyes and say:Honey…… you’ve been feminized!
Lucy
Monday, October 10 2011 16:55 Written by Michelle
All this started a couple of years ago when my girlfriend wanted me to go as a woman for Halloween. That first night when I dressed up after shaving my legs wearing a dress, putting on makeup etc. was so exhilarating that I was addicted to the pretty woman I became. I now take better care of myself by properly cleansing my face, wearing night creams, moisturizing my body and the results are really worthwhile.
I always use a "Woman's" salon to get my hair styled and for the past eight months or so, I've let it grow longer and Darlene has always made it more feminine. It's now very close to a pageboy look and I love it. Darlene also knows threading and she has trimmed my eyebrows to a thinner feminine style. The Salon also offers manicures and pedicures, so I try to grow my finger nails as long as possible and wear a very light pink color with clear Gel gloss. My toenails are either pink or red Gel. You can't wear a dress and have ugly hairy legs, so I always have them and my entire body waxed every 3 to 4 weeks. It feels great wearing sheer nylons or pantyhose after getting waxed.
I no longer feel shy or embarrassed entering a woman's clothes boutique. There are 2 lingerie stores and 6 boutiques I regularly go to, even in "Male" mode and buy dresses (Size 6 -8), jeans (Small or 26), tops, accessories and the women treat me like a model. The lingerie store fitted me for corsets, bras, padded panties and all the intimates I would need.
When I started Crossdressing a couple of years ago, I purchased a pair of shoes online and was very disappointed, as they didn't fit as well as I hoped and didn't look as good as in the photo. I then found a few local stores that had shoes in large sizes (mine are US 11) and it was so much fun actually trying them out in the store. The owners then ordered certain styles just for me. I now have over 25 pairs of boots, stilettos, sandals, sling-backs from 3 to 5 inches. The only other thing I purchased online was breast forms for my 36C bras.
Recently I began getting facials and body exfoliation....mmmmmm what a treat and last week got my ears pierced. Yesterday I bought some pretty dangly earrings, bracelets, a watch and a few rings.
Anyhow my girlfriend loves my Crossdressing and I've come out of the closet a month ago to go shopping, to the movies and restaurants. For the New Year, I will announce my Crossdressing to my parents and at my work and plan to live 24/7 as a woman.
My girlfriend and I plan to get married next year and hopefully both of us will be a bride.
Dressing, then acting and being a woman has brought out an entirely different and exciting personality compared to the drab person I am as Michael. I have more friends...mostly girls, who love the feminine me. I'm on a new and exciting path in life and will never turn back.
Michelle
Well I'll see how this works out and little by little move from FaceBook to here tho I need to learn the in's and out's of this blog.
All this started a couple of years ago when my girlfriend wanted me to go as a woman for Halloween. That first night when I dressed up after shaving my legs wearing a dress, putting on makeup etc. was so exhilarating that I was addicted to the pretty woman I became. I now take better care of myself by properly cleansing my face, wearing night creams, moisturizing my body and the results are really worthwhile.
I always use a "Woman's" salon to get my hair styled and for the past eight months or so, I've let it grow longer and Darlene has always made it more feminine. It's now very close to a pageboy look and I love it. Darlene also knows threading and she has trimmed my eyebrows to a thinner feminine style. The Salon also offers manicures and pedicures, so I try to grow my finger nails as long as possible and wear a very light pink color with clear Gel gloss. My toenails are either pink or red Gel. You can't wear a dress and have ugly hairy legs, so I always have them and my entire body waxed every 3 to 4 weeks. It feels great wearing sheer nylons or pantyhose after getting waxed.
I no longer feel shy or embarrassed entering a woman's clothes boutique. There are 2 lingerie stores and 6 boutiques I regularly go to, even in "Male" mode and buy dresses (Size 6 -8), jeans (Small or 26), tops, accessories and the women treat me like a model. The lingerie store fitted me for corsets, bras, padded panties and all the intimates I would need.
When I started Crossdressing a couple of years ago, I purchased a pair of shoes online and was very disappointed, as they didn't fit as well as I hoped and didn't look as good as in the photo. I then found a few local stores that had shoes in large sizes (mine are US 11) and it was so much fun actually trying them out in the store. The owners then ordered certain styles just for me. I now have over 25 pairs of boots, stilettos, sandals, sling-backs from 3 to 5 inches. The only other thing I purchased online was breast forms for my 36C bras.
Recently I began getting facials and body exfoliation....mmmmmm what a treat and last week got my ears pierced. Yesterday I bought some pretty dangly earrings, bracelets, a watch and a few rings.
Anyhow my girlfriend loves my Crossdressing and I've come out of the closet a month ago to go shopping, to the movies and restaurants. For the New Year, I will announce my Crossdressing to my parents and at my work and plan to live 24/7 as a woman.
My girlfriend and I plan to get married next year and hopefully both of us will be a bride.
Dressing, then acting and being a woman has brought out an entirely different and exciting personality compared to the drab person I am as Michael. I have more friends...mostly girls, who love the feminine me. I'm on a new and exciting path in life and will never turn back.
Michelle
Well I'll see how this works out and little by little move from FaceBook to here tho I need to learn the in's and out's of this blog.
This is so incredible. Love your article especially that "Love Him Like a Woman" There should be an equality ;) fashion is a way of life.
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